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Tia Cole

Tia Cole, born in 1984 and raised in the Highlands of Lynn, is the oldest of four children and the mother of three. She is a graduate of Lynn English, where she was a founding member of the GSA and North Shore Community College. Her family has deep roots on the North Shore, as far back as the 17th century. She describes her upbringing as “rough and tumble” but with a good deal of affection and community. Tia started going to Fran’s Place after school as a teenager, and she remembers it as a quiet and supportive place to work. Her January 2024 interview discusses being a “queer kid” and the dress code and cultural conflict with the administration at Lynn English, a battle she fought while remaining closeted to her parents. Tia talks about the changing language of gender and sexual identity among various generations. She also talks about serving as a surrogate and the painful ostracization from the LGBTQ+ community when she, as a polyamorous person, began a relationship with a man. Her interview addresses strategies for pushing back against religious arguments about LGBTQ+ people.

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I was the oldest of four siblings.

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I joined the Gay Straight Alliance.

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My parents were very homophobic.

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I ran away from home after that incident.

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Everyone was still trying to figure out gender.

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A pimp shot his gun in the bar.

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I just wasn't ready for a relationship.

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We signed petitions at Boston Pride.

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My brother would be the sperm donor.

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My other mama is picking me up.

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I adopted the term queer for myself.

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My middle child is non-binary.

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Lost family when kid came out as transgender.

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My generation has lost our "third spaces".

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My parents were like born again Christians.

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Most of our high school group were queer.

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My mother was very much a feminist.

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I didn't know we were a "polycule".

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It was community, people to support each other.

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Fights between the gay and straight bars.

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My ex, a whirlwind of excitement and danger.

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I experienced the strength of being a woman.

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We could marry you right now.

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If you're gay, you're going to hell.

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LGBTQ language enforced by the alphabet mafia.

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Kids should bounce around and feel what's comfortable.

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We need less labels, but more language.

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We stay connected with digital spaces.

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